You don’t have to HAVE BEEN successful to BE successful. 


Sometimes we just need to get out of our own way. 

I work with women, entrepreneurs and leaders, and I run my own business. I would be rich beyond my dreams right now if I had believed in myself… 

Oh I did, I was brilliant, award-winning even, Number one nationally, in the top ten for six years BUT – I used up all my effort and energy for a company NOT trusting I was good enough to go it alone and make a living! 


I worked hard, sacrificing time with my family. I spent holidays being ill (I think my body thought there was no time while I was working). In the end, I suffered the inevitable burnout when it all caught up with me. My career was like a mudslide, just slipping away from me with all my dreams and aspirations floating with it. 

FAST FORWARD eighteen months and I’m back, running my own company, LOVING MY WORK…What has made the difference? 

I’m doing a role that’s aligned to my VALUES, helping people. 

How does this help? If you work on your values, you understand what truly motivates you, becoming aligned to what you value most. Then you can reach the place I thought was just a dream… 


If you are under threat of redundancy, starting to feel tired and stressed or you just know deep down you have had enough. Its time to work on your values.  

Defining Your Values

When you define your personal values, you discover what’s truly important to you. You can use a list of values from google to get you started and select the ones which resonate most with you.

A great way of starting to understand yourself better is to look back on your life, identifying when you felt so terrific and confident that you were making meaningful choices. Think about the times from both your career and personal life, so you are ensuring some balance in your answers.

Step 1: Identify the times when you were happiest

  • What were you doing?
  • Were you with other people? Who?
  • What other factors contributed to your happiness?

Step 2: Identify the times when you were most proud

Use examples from your career and personal life.

  • Why were you proud?
  • Did other people share your pride? 
  • What other factors contributed to your feelings of pride?

Step 3: Identify the times when you were most fulfilled and satisfied

Again, use both work and personal examples.

  • What need or desire was fulfilled?
  • How and why did the experience give your life meaning?
  • What other factors contributed to your feelings of fulfilment?

Step 4: Determine your top values, based on your experiences of happiness, pride, and fulfilment

Why is each experience significant and memorable? 

Aim for about 10 top values. 

 Step 5: Compare each and find out which are most important if you choose between them? Then when you have difficult decisions to make you can identify which decision aligns to what’s most important to you. 

Equally, when you are unhappy, you can identify what is putting you out of kilter. 

LinkedIn can help  

SO many women I work with feel they have to do it alone, but connections can help, and the greatest reward for us all is giving back, helping one another.

You can get inspirations from others, ask for help and you will be surprised how generous your connections can be if it’s within their power to help.

You can show up as your true self and use LinkedIn as a platform to honour your VALUES and get noticed. 


Leadership & Career Coach Kaidi Bowen works with professional leaders, managers and entrepreneurs. Many of her clients are facing redundancy or retirement, making big choices or sacrificing their lives for their career to keep up with the constant changes.